la Concrétisation
Beep... Beep...
Why do I have to wake up every morning? Life sucks. Oh, wait! I need to go to college.
Argh!!! Like sucks even more.
*A few moments after a constant battle with inner thoughts, contemplating life decisions, hitting walls, and not finding the ID card*
I wonder why I always get late to college. 🤔
As I made my way towards the auditorium, a poster made me stop my tracks. It is the poster of my favorite TEDx speaker, Savannah. She is the epitome of success and has the power of captivating her audience with her fruitful advice.
And now she is here? In our college? I better hurry up and grab the front row seat.
*P. T. Usha instincts activate*
After huge chaos, we settled down, awaiting her presence.
And there she was, walking gracefully towards the stage. Her aura filled the entire auditorium with calmness and peace, and my little heart was doing summersaults as I will be fortunate to witness one of the extraordinary speeches of my life in a few minutes.
Finally, after an eternity of introductions, she grabbed the microphone and started saying, "Hey there, beautiful people! I am glad to see a huge response from you youngsters. So, without any further ado, let us dive into our topic – Breakup.”
Breakup?
I came out of my thoughts as she continued, “Breakup calls in for mixed reactions. For a few people, it may bring in all the sad memories, while for the others, it might refer to a scenario of a bird escaping from its cage. My previous sentence does not mean freedom, as it refers to a situation from which a heart has put in all its efforts to get out from that toxic bond. From a third-person view, they might look all lovely dovely and hear them express their despair over their separation. Well, looks are deceptive, people. Well, it might be a situation where a person has poured in all their efforts to work out things between them, and alas, failed in the end. Well, love is the only string that keeps you tied until the end, so when it breaks, all your efforts go in vain. Therefore, we can conclude that love is the foundation of any relationship, right? Now, question yourself. What do you mean by love?”
And then, a girl sitting beside me said, “It is an unconditional feeling that we experience and return the same.”
Damn, that was quick, and here I am in my journey of my old thoughts of my past relationship.
Savannah continued as she said, “Oh wow! I did not expect to hear such a good response. Anyways, I have another question. What do you mean by unconditional love? Is it a feeling? Or is it the recipe of care, affection, romance, blah, blah? Since everyone sitting here is an adult, let us have a deep conversation about romance. Romance need not only mean sexual intercourse. It is rather a way of making your partner feel loved with several sweet gestures like feeding your partner, holding hands, giving bear hugs, showering them with compliments, supporting their ideas and career, and many more.”
There she goes, with her heart-touching words. I continued fan Girling over her as she spoke, “Since all of you sitting here are engineers, try to draw an analogy between the latest technology and romance. Let us talk about Data Science. Data Science is an intersection of AI, Machine Learning, Deep Learning, etc. Similarly, love is also an intersection of care, affection, intimacy, and you know the rest. Now, let us pause our adult talk and roll back to our first topic – Breakup. Why do relationships tear apart?”
While I was busy questioning myself, she continued saying, “Let us get the chronological order correct. Firstly, our journey started either from enmity or friendship that later blossoms in the form of love. And one day, you wake up crying. The question is, where did your love go? Did it go to the Himalayas? How can you lose your feelings for a person whom you loved to the core?”
Oh god, I am pretty sure I will leave the auditorium with tears in my eyes. I took out a tissue paper in advance to save myself from the embarrassment, and she expressed, “Before we answer that question, I want to remind you people about the seesaw. I am pretty sure the seesaw is the good old memories folder of your childhood. Well, you guys must be wondering why have I mentioned seesaw suddenly amidst a serious issue, right? We can solve any complex situation if we know the root cause. Now hear me out. Consider a seesaw. On one side of the seesaw, we have love, and, on the other side, we have an unknown force x. Unleash your engineering minds, ha-ha. So, back to the topic, when the force x gains weight, we find its dominance over love. We find love high up in the air. We can also see a great distance separating love and ground. For instance, the Earth is your relationship. Now, imagine putting an airy article in place of love. What will happen? It will fly away due to the wind around. And now all you find is force x sitting on the seesaw end. So, what is this force x? It is nothing but ego, inferiority, insecurities, communication gap, coordination, possessiveness, lack of understanding, etc.
Hey there, possessiveness need not always be one of the reasons for a breakup. Possessiveness is not a bad feeling. Instead, it represents our love and care towards your partner. Well, is it wrong to demand most of the love from your partner, just for yourself? I guess the answer is no. So, it is usual to expect your partner to love you. Without this feeling, your relation is nothing less than a contract. On a positive note, possessiveness is fine until it hinders your partner’s growth in society or career. We should be cautious not to hurt them by being over-possessive, basically harming them emotionally. Also, both are entitled to make sure their partner feels safe and free from any insecurities. If anyone of them feels ignored or insecure, it might break you two apart eventually.
Another prime factor to think of is self-respect. If your self-respect gets harmed brutally, then the relationship is bound to end someday. So, people, you need to set some boundaries and never let your self-respect down because it is arduous to build yourself again.”
Hold up! Wait! Why is this so familiar to my past relation?
I was looking at her with curiosity as she continued further, “So, here is an advice, people. Do not just dive into a relationship just because you have some things in common with the other person or just because they are attractive. Hobbies or appearances are bound to change as time flies. So, there will be no solid foundation if you start your relationship on dynamic things. People, it is better to build your interest in a person who showers you with love, even though you both have opposite natures. Love is all about taking care of your partner’s interests and preferences. So, adventuring about their personality is far better than sticking onto a relation void of love with a mirror image of yourself. So, choose your partner correctly. “
Wow! Somehow her words hit me hard, and she continued, “Okay, people, this is it for today. I do not want you guys to hate me as I go deep into the topic, ha-ha. I want to end my speech with one last sentence. No journey is perfect from the start. It is you who is in the driver's seat, and you have control over everything. You might encounter several bumps, obstacles as you steer ahead. However, this should not let you stop you and your partner. If you have any trouble, take some time to communicate, express your agony and get comfortable. And am pretty sure that these petty issues will vanish in no time. So, in the end, it is in both of your hands too. Lead the way to unconditional love. Sayonara people. Take care."
Thank you for such a mesmerizing speech, Ms. Savannah.
As I was exiting the auditorium, there he was, my ex, leaning on to the wall. And in a split of seconds, we had eye contact. However, this time I did not feel the urge to go back to him, nor did I pity him for trying so hard to gain me back. On the contrary, I felt happy for choosing me over our toxic relationship. Thank you, Savannah, for making me realise that what I did was the best, and I am forever grateful to you.
